WILL THE REAL PAOLO BALLESTEROS PLEASE SCREAM? 

OCT 10 --re you wondering who Paolo Ballesteros will come out as today on Eat, Bulaga!? With the magic of makeup, Paolo (a father of a three year old in real life) has caught the fancy not only of the Bulaga followers but, recently, also foreign magazines (Cosmo USA, etc.) and social media where pictures of Paolo’s dozens of “alter egos” have been trending. Joked Jose Manalo, who co-hosts (also with Wally Bayola) the Juan For All, All For Juan segment, the only person that Paolo has spared his “magic touch” so far is a corpse. Like everybody else, I’ve been wondering how Paolo does it, so I asked him. When did you start doing makeup copying celebs and who was the first one that you copied?

“I started doing makeup transformation, hindi pa n’un sikat ang #makeuptransformation on Instagram, about a year ago. A friend told me to watch this video on YouTube. It was an Angelina Jolie makeup transformation. I was so amazed and inspired because it was an Asian girl who did it, with typical Asian features na malayo sa features ni Angelina, but the result looked exactly like Angelina. “I got inspired and tried it myself. On my first try, I looked like Tita Eula (Valdez), hehehehe, kasi naman Tita Eula has the same features as Angelina. I tried again that same day but this time I exaggerated the lips. Hayun, Angelina na ang lumabas! At sakto pa, it was Super Sireyna season of Eat, Bulaga! so I felt that the show could use my work because the Super Sireyna candidates were also gaya-gaya sa mga celebrities. “That’s how I introduced my ‘alter egos’ on the show. I started being a different personality like every week so that if the staff asked me to sit as judge in the Super Sireyna weekly finals, may ready na akong character na gagayahin.”  * READ MORE...

ALSO: Tyra Banks on Paolo Ballesteros: he did a great job 

OCT 9 --PHOTO: Screenshot of Tyra Banks facebook page. MANILA, Philippines – Fans of Paolo Ballesteros knew it won’t be long before an international celebrity will take notice of the TV host-actor’s popular “make-up transformation” series. After being featured in numerous international websites and blogs, Ballesteros’ ”Tyra Beks” finally reached supermodel-turned-TV host Tyra Banks. The “America’s Next Top Model” host posted a copy of the actor’s Instagram photo showing the the 4-panel make-up transformation on her Facebook Page, which has over six million followers. “I think he did a great job of looking like me,” Banks said. “But maybe if he’d have used #TYRAbeauty makeup, he woulda been more successful,” she added in jest. The photo series first showed Ballesteros smiling and with no make-up on while the next three panels had him already made-up and looking like Banks. The wig and his “fierce” pose sealed the deal. * READ MORE...

ALSO Remembering John Lennon: John in Wonderland 

OCT 9 --VISUAL: John Lennon in Wonderland by Jerry de la Rosa. “I thought I was crazy or an egomaniac for claiming to see things other people didn’t see,” John Lennon, whose 74th birthday was on Oct. 9, told Playboy in 1980. “I always was so psychic or intuitive or poetic or whatever you want to call it, that I was always seeing things in a hallucinatory way.”  Lennon received Lewis Caroll’s Alice in Wonderland as a present on his 11th birthday. The children’s book neither educates nor moralizes, its only end is pleasure. With its narration of a broad range of plots of fantasy, the book left a lasting impression on Lennon. “I was passionate about (it) and drew all the characters. I did poems in the style of ‘Jabberwocky.’ I used to love Alice...”  Realizing that he was not insane at all, Lennon thought of having adventures like Alice. By 15, he wished he could write something like it. But Alice had a mixed effect. He started to rebel, freed himself from parental stranglehold, and, thus, was ostracized by the community.

To escape the unverbalized pain of a dysfunctional childhood, he organized the Quarry Men at 17 from among gang mates and played skiffle. This made him discover rock ‘n roll, which eventually led to his putting together the Beatles. Alice’s early effect in Beatles’ songs appeared in the motive of Do You Want To Know A Secret that he based on Wishing Well of Disney’s Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. His mother, Julia, used to sing it to him as a child. The secret? That he made his girlfriend, Cynthia Powell, pregnant. The innovative opening line “Imagine I’m in love with you” of I’ll Get You draws the listener immediately into the story. Caroll’s early influence on Lennon was an indication that Alice in Wonderland would be central to the imagery of his lyrics, aside from being the basis of many of his songs. During Beatlemania, Lennon’s ambition to have a book was fulfilled in his collection of drawings, humorous pieces, poems and satirical sketches In His Own Write and A Spaniard in the Works have Alice in Wonderland-like sentence construction and jumbling of images. The major influence of fantasy in Beatles’ songs was first noticed in Yellow Submarine. Lennon and Paul McCartney collaborated on the verses while the latter wrote the catchy chorus. The sound effects create the matchless innocent excitement, capturing the simplicity that defines children’s songs. * READ MORE...

ALSO: Did Gayle King just come out? Oprah Winfrey’s bestie says ‘I’m gay’ on CBS This Morning 

OCT 9 --PHOTO: Statement ... TV journalist Gayle King appears to have outed herself on TV. Source: Supplied.--HER closer-than-close friendship with talk-show queen Oprah Winfrey has long been the subject of rumours and speculation. Now, after decades of denying that she and the media mogul are in a relationship, journalist Gayle King may have just outed herself on live TV. TMZ is reporting that King, 59, allegedly uttered the words “I’m gay” during a discussion about choosing partners on the latest episode of CBS This Morning. Did Gayle King just come out? * READ MORE...

ALSO: Solons not too keen on making same-sex marriage legal

OCT 12 --Some senators are not too keen on passing a law that will allow same-sex marriages although they risk outrage from the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community. For Sen. Vicente Sotto III, the LGBTs would have to make do with commitment ceremonies to mark their union or a live-in arrangement for now. “Magsama na lang sila or kaya mag commitment union na lang, (They can live together or they can resort to commitment union),” Sotto said in a text message. “(Pero) huwag nang galawin ang Constitution dahil lang dun (But let’s not tinker with the Constitution just for that),” Sotto added. * CONTINUE READING...

ALSO: LGBT community comes out for love 

OCT 12 --PHOTO: Cha Roque. CONTRIBUTED PHOTO/Task Force Pride Philippines. MANILA, Philippines—Come out for happiness. These were the words Cha Roque, a lesbian mom and video production professor, chose to convey her enthusiasm in a photo she submitted in support of the “Come Out for Love: Kasi Pag-ibig Pa Rin” campaign of this year’s Metro Manila Pride 20th anniversary celebration. #ComeOutforLove is an interactive and person-centric campaign that aims to gather stories of support, acceptance and bravery both from the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) sector as well as from members of the non-LGBT community. Through the online photo campaign, participants were encouraged to share a photo and personal story on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram using the hashtag #ComeOutForLove, showing their message of what or for whom they are coming out, written in a piece of paper or illustration board. Spearheaded by Task Force Pride (TFP) Philippines, the convenor of the annual community-driven Metro Manila Pride Season, the campaign was officially launched at Boho Sarapsody Bistro in Cubao, Quezon City, last Saturday night.

PHOTO: Kelsey Hadjirul. CONTRIBUTED PHOTO/Task Force Pride Philippines. In her story complementing the photo, which is also posted on the Metro Manila Pride Facebook page, Cha shared why she decided to take part in the campaign. “I joined the campaign because I want the world to respect and recognize the love I share with my partner. I want the world to understand that even as a lesbian, I have the capability to raise a normal kid and have a happy family. I want to have the freedom to tell the world that I am a woman loving woman without being judged for it. I am a lesbian mom and I have no excuses, no apologies, no regrets.” * READ MORE...

ALSO Inquirer commentary: This is no confession  

I once resolved that I do not and will not subscribe to labels because they are flawed, misleading, and often disempowering, but today I declare that I am what the patriarchy categorizes as “gay.” I have long “hidden” from my family and peers, and I have lied countless times in the process of “hiding.” Discussions about love and sex are a trap, a slippery slope to lying, so most of the time I just shut up. I started talking about my sexuality only in the last few years, beginning in college, and only to close friends. Many people who know me still do not know. “Outing” has been a difficult, exhausting process. When I first gained cognizance of male and female sexuality, I panicked. Suddenly, I was not sure who and what I was: I had both girl and boy crushes!

In which box do I belong? How do I find the answer? Sex is not something we talk about at home, and sex education in school was alienating. Growing up in a judgmental world obsessed with boxes, how do you introduce yourself without misrepresenting yourself? As I got to know myself more, I had to contend with another kind of shame. I thought I was “lying by omission,” as Ellen Page described it in her “outing” speech. How do you “out” yourself to “others” without agreeing that you have wronged “them” all these years? But more importantly, slowly I began to feel that I was not unfree. I gained more confidence to just do the things I want to do (some of which this macho society will categorize as “gay,” like go on dates or out with “openly gay” friends) or not do (like not play basketball). I was not necessarily being “gay” or “straight,” I thought, I was just being me. So do I think I was in the “closet”? Despite the semblance of freedom, I was. Was I/were we “lying by omission”? No, I was not; we were not. * READ MORE...


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Will the real Paolo Ballesteros please scream?


Paolo and his ‘alter egos’

MANILA, OCTOBER 13, 2014 (PHILSTAR) FUNFARE By Ricky Lo - Are you wondering who Paolo Ballesteros will come out as today on Eat, Bulaga!?

With the magic of makeup, Paolo (a father of a three year old in real life) has caught the fancy not only of the Bulaga followers but, recently, also foreign magazines (Cosmo USA, etc.) and social media where pictures of Paolo’s dozens of “alter egos” have been trending.

Joked Jose Manalo, who co-hosts (also with Wally Bayola) the Juan For All, All For Juan segment, the only person that Paolo has spared his “magic touch” so far is a corpse.

Like everybody else, I’ve been wondering how Paolo does it, so I asked him.

When did you start doing makeup copying celebs and who was the first one that you copied?

“I started doing makeup transformation, hindi pa n’un sikat ang #makeuptransformation on Instagram, about a year ago. A friend told me to watch this video on YouTube. It was an Angelina Jolie makeup transformation. I was so amazed and inspired because it was an Asian girl who did it, with typical Asian features na malayo sa features ni Angelina, but the result looked exactly like Angelina.

“I got inspired and tried it myself. On my first try, I looked like Tita Eula (Valdez), hehehehe, kasi naman Tita Eula has the same features as Angelina. I tried again that same day but this time I exaggerated the lips. Hayun, Angelina na ang lumabas! At sakto pa, it was Super Sireyna season of Eat, Bulaga! so I felt that the show could use my work because the Super Sireyna candidates were also gaya-gaya sa mga celebrities.

“That’s how I introduced my ‘alter egos’ on the show. I started being a different personality like every week so that if the staff asked me to sit as judge in the Super Sireyna weekly finals, may ready na akong character na gagayahin.”

* How do you copy a celeb with amazing exactness?

“Browse ako nang browse ng pictures ng celebrities na gagayahin ko sa Net. I try to look for a celebrity’s prominent feature and that’s what I concentrate on. I study how they project in pictures and on video, details ng mukha like mga shape at dulo ng eyebrows, butas ng ilong.

“It still amazes me how a simple lakihan ‘yung pinakabutas ng ilong with eyeliners can really change your look! When the makeup is almost done, I look at myself in my mirror almost cross-eyed, so I can see kung anjan na ba ‘yung ginagaya ko. Natatawa na lang ako sa sarili ko pag somehow, I can see the resemblance already.”

How long does it take you to do one?

“It takes me two to four hours to do one. Once I’m done but I need to do some new touches, I do it fast kahit wala nang tinginan sa phone ko where I save photos of celebrities as my reference.”

Did you study the art of makeup?

“No, I’ve never had formal lessons in makeup, not even in painting, only in drawing na very basic lang because I studied B.S. Architecture for a semester lang, then I shifted to AB Comm for makeup.

“Before pag naggi-girl kami sa EB tinitingnan ko lang kung paano i-apply ‘yung mga makeup. Then, I became part of I Heart You Pare with Regine Velasquez and I was cast as a drag queen. So every taping day I was wearing makeup pero may makeup artist din ako noon. But I already have a peg in my mind kung anong makeup ang ipapalagay ko sa makeup artist ko. Lately, I have been viewing lots of makeup tutorials on YouTube, and that’s where I get the techniques, the how-to’s and what products to use.”

Who is easy to copy and who is hard to copy?

“The easiest to copy is Angelina Jolie because of her prominent features — lips, cheekbones, etc. Lakihan ko lang lips ko and contour ng bongga sa cheeks, plus cat eyeliner and voila, Angelina Jolie na ako! The hardest to copy is Beyoncé. It took me three weeks to copy her. I don’t know why. I think it’s because I don’t see anything prominent sa face niya. Her features are so smooth kasi, eh.”

What do you think is the reaction of celebs that you copy?

“I hope they like it, hahahaha! I have no idea because no celebrity that I copied has ever made any comment on Instagram.”

If you were to be a woman, who is your peg?

“Angelina Jolie, of course! Hahahaha! Putok lang ang lips keri na, hahahaha! Physical aspect aside, I think she’s a very strong woman and a person who knows what she wants.”

FROM THE INQUIRER

Tyra Banks on Paolo Ballesteros: he did a great job By Kristine Angeli Sabillo | INQUIRER.netOctober 12, 2014 | 2:46 pm


Screenshot of Tyra Banks facebook page

MANILA, Philippines – Fans of Paolo Ballesteros knew it won’t be long before an international celebrity will take notice of the TV host-actor’s popular “make-up transformation” series.

After being featured in numerous international websites and blogs, Ballesteros’ ”Tyra Beks” finally reached supermodel-turned-TV host Tyra Banks.

The “America’s Next Top Model” host posted a copy of the actor’s Instagram photo showing the the 4-panel make-up transformation on her Facebook Page, which has over six million followers.

“I think he did a great job of looking like me,” Banks said.

“But maybe if he’d have used #TYRAbeauty makeup, he woulda been more successful,” she added in jest.

The photo series first showed Ballesteros smiling and with no make-up on while the next three panels had him already made-up and looking like Banks. The wig and his “fierce” pose sealed the deal.

* The re-post has had around 105,000 likes as of Sunday 10 a.m. It has also been shared more than 3,000 times.

Many Filipinos commented and congratulated Ballesteros for his feat. While others agreed that “imitation is the best form of flattery.”

Ballesteros’ original post on his Instagram account received 19,500 likes already. His other works have received likes almost double that number.

Make-up transformations trended online this year and took a funny twist when people tried to pull off unbelievable transformations without success. Some just posted their photos as they pretended to apply make-up then post an actual photo of a celebrity for the last panel.

Ballesteros, on the other hand, used his painting skills to actually achieve the look of American celebrities.

It was earlier revealed that he paints and is a great grandson of national artist and painter Fernando Amorsolo.

Originally posted at 9:49 am | Sunday, October 12, 2014

FROM PHILSTAR

John in Wonderland By Edgar O. Cruz (The Philippine Star) | Updated October 12, 2014 - 12:00am 0 74 googleplus0 0


John Lennon in Wonderland by Jerry de la Rosa

MANILA, Philippines - “I thought I was crazy or an egomaniac for claiming to see things other people didn’t see,” John Lennon, whose 74th birthday was on Oct. 9, told Playboy in 1980. “I always was so psychic or intuitive or poetic or whatever you want to call it, that I was always seeing things in a hallucinatory way.”

Lennon received Lewis Caroll’s Alice in Wonderland as a present on his 11th birthday. The children’s book neither educates nor moralizes, its only end is pleasure.

With its narration of a broad range of plots of fantasy, the book left a lasting impression on Lennon. “I was passionate about (it) and drew all the characters. I did poems in the style of ‘Jabberwocky.’ I used to love Alice...”

Realizing that he was not insane at all, Lennon thought of having adventures like Alice. By 15, he wished he could write something like it. But Alice had a mixed effect. He started to rebel, freed himself from parental stranglehold, and, thus, was ostracized by the community.

To escape the unverbalized pain of a dysfunctional childhood, he organized the Quarry Men at 17 from among gang mates and played skiffle. This made him discover rock ‘n roll, which eventually led to his putting together the Beatles.

Alice’s early effect in Beatles’ songs appeared in the motive of Do You Want To Know A Secret that he based on Wishing Well of Disney’s Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. His mother, Julia, used to sing it to him as a child. The secret? That he made his girlfriend, Cynthia Powell, pregnant.

The innovative opening line “Imagine I’m in love with you” of I’ll Get You draws the listener immediately into the story. Caroll’s early influence on Lennon was an indication that Alice in Wonderland would be central to the imagery of his lyrics, aside from being the basis of many of his songs.

During Beatlemania, Lennon’s ambition to have a book was fulfilled in his collection of drawings, humorous pieces, poems and satirical sketches In His Own Write and A Spaniard in the Works have Alice in Wonderland-like sentence construction and jumbling of images.

The major influence of fantasy in Beatles’ songs was first noticed in Yellow Submarine. Lennon and Paul McCartney collaborated on the verses while the latter wrote the catchy chorus. The sound effects create the matchless innocent excitement, capturing the simplicity that defines children’s songs.

* The theme of loss in Strawberry Fields Forever is similar to the book’s “going down” device from Alice Goes Down in the Rabbithole. The shrunk Alice gets sleepy. “It doesn’t matter much to me” of Strawberry Fields Forever is reminiscent of “It didn’t much matter which way she put it...” of Alice Goes Down in the Rabbithole.

Lennon lifted “Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds” from the Wool and Water chapter of Through the Looking Glass’ chase concept where Alice is taken down a river in a row boat by the Queen, who had suddenly changed into a sheep.

“Being for The Benefit of Mr. Kite’s” calliope background was a Caroll technique. Phantasmagoria described: First you write a sentence,/And then you chop it small;/Then mix the bits, and sort them out/Just as they chance to fall:/The order of the phrases makes/No difference at all.”

The Magical Mystery Tour film is a Caroll-inspired fit of playfulness. Lennon rehashed “I Am the Walrus” from The Walrus and the Carpenter. The refrain “I am the Egg Man” instead of “I am the Walrus” shows a dichotomy, an example of Through the Looking Glass’ Jabberwocky.

The Beatles album had Caroll influences in Glass Onion and Cry Baby Cry. Even McCartney was influenced. Helter Skelter’s “Will you, won’t you want me to break you” was nicked from The Lobster Quadrille’s “Will you, won’t you, will you, won’t you, will you, won’t you join the dance?”

The Beatles would even have their own fantasy film, the animated feature with an eponymous title based on the Yellow Submarine song.

Caroll’s last influence appeared in Across the Universe. The phrase “pool of sorrows” largely recalls Alice Goes to the Rabbithole where she wept “in the pool of tears,” growing nine feet high.

For sure, Lennon grew nine feet high with Caroll’s impact!

Notes: Visuals are winners in ARTlead Facebook art group’s Tareptipism Challenge: John Lennon in Wonderland. Copyright reserved by the artist.

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Did Gayle King just come out? Oprah Winfrey’s bestie says ‘I’m gay’ on CBS This Morning 4 DAYS AGO OCTOBER 09, 2014 9:00AM


Statement ... TV journalist Gayle King appears to have outed herself on TV.

HER closer-than-close friendship with talk-show queen Oprah Winfrey has long been the subject of rumours and speculation.

Now, after decades of denying that she and the media mogul are in a relationship, journalist Gayle King may have just outed herself on live TV.

TMZ is reporting that King, 59, allegedly uttered the words “I’m gay” during a discussion about choosing partners on the latest episode of CBS This Morning.

Did Gayle King just come out?

Footage shows King joking around with co-anchor Charlie Rose, laughing off suggestions from her co-hosts that they would be a good match.

She then appears to say, “I’m just kidding. I’m, I’m gay.”

SO CLOSE: Oprah Winfrey opens up about friendship with Gayle King


Gay rumours ... Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King have been best friends for years. Source: AP

Sources from CBS have told TMZ that King — who has been best friends with Winfrey since they met in 1976 while working at a local TV station — did not make the statement and was just stuttering after joking with Rose.

Rumours that Winfrey and King are more than just friends have been running rampant for years — the subject was even addressed by legendary interviewer Barbara Walters in 2010.

For years the pair have been inseparable, working and holidaying together. Winfrey even appointed King editor-at-large of 'O' magazine.

“I am not lesbian. I am not even kind of lesbian,” Winfrey told Walters on ABC News.

Winfrey has been in a relationship with lawyer Stedman Graham for 28 years, but the pair are rarely photographed together.

King divorced Bill Bumpus, the father of her two adult children in 1993 after 11 years.

King told TV Guide in April 2011, “In the beginning, it used to bother me. Like, ‘Oh, my God, I don’t want people to think I’m gay — I’m trying to get a date!’ But now I don’t care. I’ve given up trying to figure that out. At this stage, if you still think that, it’s on you.”


The Bahamas home belonging to chat show queen Oprah Winfrey. (February 18, 2011 - Source: Bauer Griffin)

FROM THE MANILA BULLETIN

Solons not too keen on making same-sex marriage legal by Hannah Torregoza October 12, 2014 Share this:


SOTTO

Some senators are not too keen on passing a law that will allow same-sex marriages although they risk outrage from the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community.

For Sen. Vicente Sotto III, the LGBTs would have to make do with commitment ceremonies to mark their union or a live-in arrangement for now.

“Magsama na lang sila or kaya mag commitment union na lang, (They can live together or they can resort to commitment union),” Sotto said in a text message.

“(Pero) huwag nang galawin ang Constitution dahil lang dun (But let’s not tinker with the Constitution just for that),” Sotto added.

* For his part, Sen. Sergio Osmeña III said while he is open to the proposal to amend the Family Code to pave way for the legalization of same-sex marriage in the country, he won’t initiate filing the bill that would initiate it.

Osmeña said he didn’t want to go be at loggerheads with the Catholic church and his own family and relatives who are also strongly opposed to the idea.

“I’m in favor of it but the Catholic church will kill me & my aunts will kill me but yes, I’m in favor of it for a long time,” Osmena said in an interview.

“I’m not willing to sponsor a bill because my text is going to be bombarded,” he added.

Osmeña said he had already gone through a harrowing time with friends and relatives who didn’t take his side when he supported the passage of the controversial Reproductive Health law.

“When I co-authored the Reproductive health bill, I found myself cornered by friends and relatives during birthday parties or during wakes. They were telling me ‘don’t do that because that is the devil’s work,” he said.

FROM THE INQUIRER

LGBT community comes out for love By Arvin Mendoza |INQUIRER.net8:36 pm | Sunday, October 12th, 2014


Cha Roque. CONTRIBUTED PHOTO/Task Force Pride Philippines

MANILA, Philippines—Come out for happiness.

These were the words Cha Roque, a lesbian mom and video production professor, chose to convey her enthusiasm in a photo she submitted in support of the “Come Out for Love: Kasi Pag-ibig Pa Rin” campaign of this year’s Metro Manila Pride 20th anniversary celebration.

#ComeOutforLove is an interactive and person-centric campaign that aims to gather stories of support, acceptance and bravery both from the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) sector as well as from members of the non-LGBT community.

Through the online photo campaign, participants were encouraged to share a photo and personal story on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram using the hashtag #ComeOutForLove, showing their message of what or for whom they are coming out, written in a piece of paper or illustration board.

Spearheaded by Task Force Pride (TFP) Philippines, the convenor of the annual community-driven Metro Manila Pride Season, the campaign was officially launched at Boho Sarapsody Bistro in Cubao, Quezon City, last Saturday night.


Kelsey Hadjirul. CONTRIBUTED PHOTO/Task Force Pride Philippines

In her story complementing the photo, which is also posted on the Metro Manila Pride Facebook page, Cha shared why she decided to take part in the campaign.

“I joined the campaign because I want the world to respect and recognize the love I share with my partner. I want the world to understand that even as a lesbian, I have the capability to raise a normal kid and have a happy family. I want to have the freedom to tell the world that I am a woman loving woman without being judged for it. I am a lesbian mom and I have no excuses, no apologies, no regrets.”

* In an interview with INQUIRER.net, Cha said she’s always been active in advocacies and movements that are pro-LGBT.

She’s been “out” to her family whose acceptance of her sexual orientation has been a big factor with her being comfortable in sharing her personal story.

“I am overwhelmed because I have seen the entries of parents of LGBT’s, the letters showing their support…like how I was overwhelmed with my mom agreeing to be a part of the a documentary I made for stories of ‘being me’.

She said in the docu, ‘Of course, she’s my daughter, I’ll accept whatever makes her happy.’”

Kelsey, Cha’s 10 year-old daughter has always been accepting, for she has been exposed to the LGBT lifestyle.

Cha shared how she was so touched when Kelsey expressed her desire to join the campaign.

Cha is teaching a video production course. In one conversation, Cha recounted that she asked her daughter the question. “What if the faculty finds out I’m a lesbian, would they discriminate me?” to which Kelsey responded, “If they discriminate you, would you turn ‘straight’”?

“Sumali ako [sa Come Out for Love campaign] kasi gusto kong magkaroon ng equality ’saka gusto kong malaman ng ibang tao na ’pag nagdidiscriminate sila, wala namang nababago sa isang LGBT kasi yun na sila. Kasi wala namang masama dun saka love ko si Mommy,” Kelsey said in her photo story.

When asked about her message to all the parents like her, she said: “My kid is very young. And if I get faced with the same situation that my kid comes out to me, I will accept her. I think it’s better if they’ll tell you that, rather than secretly live their lives and to pretend to be someone else when they’re with you. I want to support my kid if it is the lifestyle she wants. You love your kids unconditionally, that’s how it goes…it would be okay for me whoever they want to be with…but there should always be a guidance [from me] towards whatever path she will take.”


Red Macalalad speaks during the Metro Manila Pride launch. CONTRIBUTED PHOTO/Loreen Ordoño

Why come out

Speaking at the launch, TFP Partnerships Head Red Macalalad related that today, there are also pockets of other pride marches that are happening in the different parts of the country.

“This is a testimony of what coming out does for the community. It increases [the number of] people to have the courage to come out and to be comfortable about themselves in public,” he said. “The Pride Marches have been a very good venue for LGBTs to speak up and come out. You can hear so many stories of people saying ‘Nag-come out ako when I attended the Pride March. It is my public statement of who I am.’”

According to Macalalad, TFP has been aware of serious issues among LGBT community, which have lingered through the years. He noted there are still so many stories of violence and hate crimes, of people being discriminated at home, school or workplace.

Congress has yet to pass the anti-discrimination bill.

To date, there are already two out of 81 provinces and seven out of 1,637 cities and municipalities in the country that have anti-discrimination protection, according to the Philippine Statistical Agency.

Recently, Quezon City Mayor Herbert Bautista has expressed his support for same-sex marriage in lieu of the proposed Gender-Fair City ordinance protecting LGBT rights.

Two weeks ago, the United Nations Human Rights Council (UNHRC) approved the Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity (SOGI) resolution which seeks to uphold human rights issues, asses the current situation of SOGI around the world and identify good practices and initiatives to abate discrimination and violence against LGBTs worldwide.

Macalalad said, “If you look at the issues, what does it come down to? When we are trying to think about it, we look at where our people are situated, what is the context they are in. We have seen and encountered stories of LGBT people who say, when they try to grasp what the real issue is, it is essentially about love and the lack of,” he said.

“When you think of pride, you think of love because what you are proud of is something that you love. And if you are proud of yourself, if you are proud of somebody in your family or in the workplace, you are expressing love,” he added.

“Come Out For Love” campaign, a reminder of the passion and love that started and sustained 20 years of taking to the streets, is given another face this year as it is set to ultimately engage the non-LGBT supporters or the “straight allies” to share their inspiring stories that has brought about significant impact on the lives of their loved ones.

“We realize that maybe, there are voices that we have yet to hear. The message is that we need additional voices to this movement. We would like to also highlight the voices of our heterosexual friends, heterosexual family, that they too can help us by also coming out as people who love us, people who care about us, people who are proud of us,” Macalalad said.

He said the issue of equality or the issue against discrimination has to be seen from different angles and points of view. This year what they would like to add and encourage are the perspectives of their heterosexual allies.

“It all boils down to pride being about love, being proud of who you are, being proud of your ‘kuya’ who is bakla, being proud of your younger sister who is a lesbian….respecting a co-worker who is transgender and schoolmates who self-identify as bi-sexuals,” he said.

“If you believe in the same things that we do, if you believe that you are part of creating safe spaces for LBGTs and for everyone in general, then you are a part of this movement,” he concluded.

Series of activities
The Metro Manila Pride Season, the first in Asia, is a series of community-led activities that culminates in the annual Metro Manila Pride March to be held on December 6, 2014 at Malate Manila. A Pride Fest Street Fair will take place on the morning, where LGBT-owned, -themed, and -friendly businesses will be selling various merchandise and post-parade festivities will happen during the night.

Happening this November are: #ComeOutForLove Exhibit Launch where the selected stories and subjects from the online submissions will be featured alongside celebrity endorsers of the campaign in the photo exhibit shot and designed by noted photographer, Niccolo Cosme; the Metro Manila Pride All Families Day which is a fun and food day dedicated for all kinds of families; the Pride Speaks which is an afternoon of inspiring and powerful LGBT talks; and the Solidarity Soiree, a night that will recognize and celebrate some of the most hardworking LGBT activists.

Interested participants can log on to www. metromanilapride.com for more information and can register for the March at bit.ly/MMPMarchRegistration.

INQUIRER COMMENTARY

This is no confession Young Blood By Marc Batac |Philippine Daily Inquirer12:06 am | Tuesday, April 15th, 2014


Marc Batac, 24, is a political science graduate of the University of the Philippines Diliman. He is working with a national coalition working for equitable development, and a regional advocacy and solidarity organization promoting peace, democratization and right to self-determination in Mindanao and Southeast Asia.

I once resolved that I do not and will not subscribe to labels because they are flawed, misleading, and often disempowering, but today I declare that I am what the patriarchy categorizes as “gay.”

I have long “hidden” from my family and peers, and I have lied countless times in the process of “hiding.” Discussions about love and sex are a trap, a slippery slope to lying, so most of the time I just shut up. I started talking about my sexuality only in the last few years, beginning in college, and only to close friends. Many people who know me still do not know.

“Outing” has been a difficult, exhausting process.

When I first gained cognizance of male and female sexuality, I panicked. Suddenly, I was not sure who and what I was: I had both girl and boy crushes! In which box do I belong? How do I find the answer? Sex is not something we talk about at home, and sex education in school was alienating. Growing up in a judgmental world obsessed with boxes, how do you introduce yourself without misrepresenting yourself?

As I got to know myself more, I had to contend with another kind of shame. I thought I was “lying by omission,” as Ellen Page described it in her “outing” speech. How do you “out” yourself to “others” without agreeing that you have wronged “them” all these years?

But more importantly, slowly I began to feel that I was not unfree. I gained more confidence to just do the things I want to do (some of which this macho society will categorize as “gay,” like go on dates or out with “openly gay” friends) or not do (like not play basketball). I was not necessarily being “gay” or “straight,” I thought, I was just being me.

So do I think I was in the “closet”? Despite the semblance of freedom, I was. Was I/were we “lying by omission”? No, I was not; we were not.

* It took long, painful years of struggle with self-hate to reach this point and be able to say: Homosexuality does not make me a bad person, nor does choosing not to talk about it. I am guilty of many other lies, but not of “hiding in the closet.” I do not have anything to “confess” because being who I am is not a wrong. Because I do not owe anyone, except my romantic partner, the obligation of saying I am (also) attracted to the same sex.

I do sound defensive, because I am, because we have always been under attack. However, here, now, by speaking up, I hope to turn the tables and be on the offensive.

It is the patriarchal society that constructed and imposed this imaginary “closet” upon us. We are the ones who are gossiped about in workplaces and reunions, joked about in television shows and comedy bars, even by “out” gay wo/men, and portrayed and perceived as offenders when we (“closeted” or not) are the victims of repressive structures, norms and production.

A person whom the patriarchal system categorizes as “straight” does not “out” her/himself and “confess” that s/he is attracted to the opposite sex, but s/he isn’t charged with “lying by omission,” is s/he? It is unnecessary and defensive! Now explain why it is a “gay” wo/man’s obligation to the “other” to do so.

Why then am I speaking up about it now if I do not agree with the idea of “confessing”? Why do I call myself “gay” when I do not subscribe to these labels? Why do I feel it is important to say something?

Here I will clarify that I believe in the idea of “outing.” The “outing” of many, including celebrities, helps change society’s and every gay wo/man’s perception of human sexuality. However, what I do not believe in is the portrayal of “outing” as penance to “lying by omission.” A truly empowering “outing” is not a confession, which is an act of submission to the patriarchy’s morality of what is “true” and of who owes whom the “truth.” It is not an apology because one realizes s/he is not obligated to the “other.” Rather, it is a stand—an act of resistance and self-empowerment.

As Foucault will argue, my “outing,” and that of many others before me, amounts to recognition (in Althusserian sense), ergo legitimization of my/our being “subjects” of the “other,” the “oppressor.” Yes, I am “outing” myself because I recognize that these unjust, moronic boxes (closets)—the stereotype of a masculine male who should be attracted to a feminine female, and vice versa—still exist today. However, an “outing” does not legitimize the “oppressor” if it is an exposition of the foolishness and injustice of power relations, a call for the dismantling of the patriarchy.

My story of “outing” is my first step to challenging our dominant preconceptions of people in the “closet,” to deconstructing our ideas of “truth,” of “lying,” and of “outing,” and to advocating empathy for the struggles of every person whose identity, including their sexuality, race, and (non-)belief, is being discriminated against.

I am calling myself “gay” even if it crudely and incompletely represents my sexuality and the entirety of my humanity, because in the end, I still belong to this community (even if arbitrary) of people that to this day are subjected not only to psychological but also and more impor tantly to economic repression. It is our common interest to end discrimination in all forms and thus organize our selves to a united agenda.

Allowing myself to be counted is my first step to collective action.

By using these labels—bakla, bading, badaf and many others that were/are long used to either humor or insult—I/we coopt power over language, appropriate our own meanings, twist and saturate them in the hope that in the near future, there will be no more need to use any labels. That in the future my being gay is not more important and special than my being an activist, a comrade, a student, an artist, a son, a brother, a lover, a friend.

Owning these labels is my first step to changing and destroying them.

My silence is peace only in my progressive but imagined world. To realize that vision, I have to face the material world as it is today—imperfect, barbaric and unjust—and engage it. The fight starts and ends with my dream of a better life and world for the next generation, for my children and my grandchildren.

Speaking up is my first step to realizing that world.


Chief News Editor: Sol Jose Vanzi

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