BIZ COLUMN: BEING HAPPY IS A DECISION
MANILA, APRIL 19, 2009 (STAR) BUSINESS MATTERS (BEYOND THE BOTTOM LINE) By Francis J. Kong - The song carries a very catchy tune. There’s even whistling in the background.
And then the words came out saying: “Don’t Worry…Be Happy.”
The song became an instant hit. Bobby McFerrin conveys a message of being happy to everyone simply telling them not to worry or fear, just be happy.
But here is my problem. I’m an eternal optimist. (This is why I have not yet given up hope on this country…) yet I am a realist. You cannot be happy for happiness’s sake. You cannot be happy in a vacuum. Lunatics do but not you and me.
I have always encouraged people to look at the positive side of things. The reason is simple. When you try to be positive you will be able to handle a difficult situation better than being negative about it.
But I am a realist. I do not live in denial. And denial is not a river in Egypt. And there are more pyramids in the Philippines than in Egypt. This is why I am a very realistically practical person. Ask the many who have attended my talks and trainings. They will confirm this fact. I have never told people to smile when they wake up in the morning, smile when they go to work, smile at their boss, smile at their friends and smile at everyone you meet and this message is brought to you by the National Mental Institution….I don’t do that.
But being happy is a decision.
Living a happy, resilient, and optimistic life is also good for your health. The killer stress, tension, anxiety is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer, and stroke. And when you are hit by it, you will realize the uselessness of having to go through all the negative stuff when you had the opportunity to positively deal with it.
To be happy is relatively easy; it begins with a decision. Simply decide to be a happy person.
Here are the following things you need to do in order to be happy:
1. DEVELOP AN ATITTUDE OF GRATITUDE.
We have so much to be thankful for. You’ve got a job, be thankful. You’ve got people who love you be thankful. You’re healthy be thankful. Most people in the world would gladly have the many things you now have. You just have to learn to appreciate so you can be happy.
2. BE IN THE COMPANY OF HAPPY PEOPLE.
Stay away from chronic complainers. It feels so good to be in the company of happy people. They rub off on you.
3. LEARN TO GIVE A HEARTY LAUGH.
Most people do not know how to give a hearty laugh. Maybe they have been trained to suppress their laughter for so long they fail to understand that recent medical findings have indicated that when you suppress a good laugh, it reversed itself and spreads to your hips.
4. LOOK FOR INSPIRATION.
I start the day with the Good News and I am referring to The Bible. Most news is bad news so get less of it. Some people just can’t start their day without their daily dose of the bad news.
5. MANAGE AND ORGANIZE.
In a 24/7 environment, do not try to manage your time but you need to manage your tasks, manage your schedule and manage your energy.
6. DO REGULAR EXERCISE.
Ask those who have a regular regimen of exercise and they will tell you they feel great, they have more energy and thus they are happy. Being sickly all the time is no fun at all.
7. BE HONEST AT ALL TIMES.
Do you know how stressful it is to be dishonest? You need to remember what you said the last time. Some people lie too often such that when they admitted they are lying nobody believes them.
8. CONTINUE LEARNING.
Learning is a happy experience. When you try and learn something new everyday, it challenges you, it stretches you but it affords you the ability to accomplish new things and this will make you happy.
There are still many things you can do in order to be happy but one of the most important things you need to do is to let go of the bitter pains inflicted upon you but the people you loved and trusted. Let go of those layers and layers of negative emotions.
Do what you have to do and never mind the losers who want to pull you down. The Bible talks about forgiveness as a very important act of obedience and this we need to do. No one has the right or the power to make you unhappy. Being happy is a choice.
Ask The Lord to fill your heart with gladness and allow your happiness to graduate into genuine joy.
(Francis Kong will be the lead trainer for the Dr. John Maxwell’s “Developing the Leader Within You” leadership program this April 29-30 at the EDSA Shangri-La Hotel. For further inquiries contact Inspire Leadership Consultancy Inc. 632-6872614)
Chief News Editor: Sol Jose Vanzi
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